"Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth”
Rumi
Having a relaxed body is key to having a relaxed ass, and a relaxed ass is the key to experiencing great anal and prostate pleasure.
So as you begin to read this, I’m going to invite you to take some deep breaths, to notice your posture. Are you scrunched over your screen, shoulders hunched, back tense, buttocks tight? or can you lean back and find a way to read this from a more relaxed position?
And I invite you to continue to breathe deeply and relax your body as you read.
I believe, and I know from my own experience, that this area of the body can be just as beautiful and erotic an experience as any other erogenous zone. For men especially, because the anus and the prostate has some of the highest concentration of nerve endings in the body and therefore a wonderful capacity for sensation and possibilities for pleasure
There is still much confusion and misunderstanding and even fear about the anal massage and prostate massage even though such delightful sensations can be experienced there.
I offer anal touch and prostate massage as part of my Tantric Massage. And I get asked a lot of questions about anal massage, anal sex and prostate massage. Here are a few:
Is anal sex painful?
It can be if you rush and force things too quickly but not at all if you take care and listen to your body. Most fears around pain relate very much to the idea of penetration is the only form of anal pleasure and so when people have tried it, it’s often been too large, too fast, too soon, with not enough relaxation or lube. Pain can also happen if there is anxiety, fear or disgust there. There is a lot going on! So no wonder some people experience pain. Check out my Anal 101 video for more pain-free tips for anal pleasure
Is anal sex dirty?
We all learned from an early age, that what comes out of our ass is dirty. So of course, the anus has become associated with being smelly, dirty and unclean. And certainly, it is wise to take good care of anal hygiene. Getting clean is one way of ensuring everyone has a good time. When you come to see me for a prostate massage or anal play, you will be invited to shower well before the massage, and I wear gloves during anal touch for hygiene so you can relax more into the sensations.
Does liking anal make me gay?
Anal pleasure can be experienced by any gender and discovered at any point during an adult's sexual journey. And it is important to understand that intimacy between men can be so much more varied, nuanced, powerful and joyful than it just being about anal play and penetration.
What is a prostate massage?
The Prostate is a prostate gland that is part of the reproductive system in a man. It produces one of 3 fluids that make up your ejaculate or cum juices. The Prostate gland is walnut textured and is tucked just inside the body. For some, it can be felt by pressing on the perineum. It is most often accessed by inserting a well-lubricated finger and pressing on the internal membranes of the anal wall. Gentle circles and strokes with tips of fingers can bring immense pleasure. And for some more persistent pressure of fingers and specially designed toys work for them. But because our arms are not that long, it can be difficult to reach around to experience this for yourself. Both fingers and toys are available here to explore and experience through Tantric Massage.
Is anal sex really like you see in porn?
Only the most experienced anus can cope with the level of touch and penetration that we see in porn. Most porn actors are seasoned professionals who have dedicated time to training their bodies to perform that way, and so are experts who are being choreographed for the camera. And so most porn, including anal porn, doesn’t resemble real life at all! That’s not to say that you can’t train your way to similar experiences, but if you are fairly new to anal and prostate pleasure then the beginning must always be slow, teasing and honouring.
Does anal sex feel good?
Yes, for many people anal sex can be mind-blowing. The first time I really allowed myself to relax into the sensuality of it all and be touched and honoured there I had an orgasm from anal massage, and that was just the outside! And many men who come to see me for anal massage, anal play and prostate massage get a lot of pleasure from it too.
As part of my Tantric Massage, I offer a Rosebud Massage which focuses on external touch and stimulation of the perineum and anal area. It can bring pleasure in a quite wonderful way without you needing to open to internal touch. And if penetration and prostate massage is something you’d like to explore then we can start slowly and gently together. Discover more about my Tantric Massage or book an initial consultation call to get started
Many people say that the benefits include
- Help to destress: anal touch stimulates and relaxes the limbic nervous system which can induce deep relaxation
- Nervous system regulation: the parasympathetic nervous system can be more deeply accessed, and may even take you into erotic trance states
- Help with intimacy: anal massage is the ultimate in taboo. Experiencing joy, sensuality and pleasure in and around this part of your body can bring feelings of self-acceptance. Sharing anal touch with a partner can be an incredibly intimate moment and is one of my favourite parts of Tantric Massage
- It’s exciting: sometimes because you are breaking a taboo and more often because, when you allow yourself to drop into the pleasure of it, it expands your capacity for sensual pleasure, freedom and joy
How to do a prostate massage?
- Come for a Tantric Massage to experience a Prostate Massage yourself
- If you are a couple looking to explore together then come for a Couples Massage Retreat
- Or have a look at my Anal 101 video (14 minutes)
- Or dive right in and book your free Consultation Call to find your path to anal pleasure and joy
Is anal sex and prostate massage right for everyone?
- For some people, anal pleasure is off the agenda and that is OK. It is perfectly valid for anyone to make that choice at any time. And if that’s true for you, then I urge you to respect your own boundaries and not be persuaded away from that
- Equally, if there are any medical issues to do with the prostate gland, digestion or bowl, then prostate massage and anal touch may not be right for you
- Perhaps anal pleasure is something you’d like to tick off your list of sexual exploits? Maybe it’s an area of deep curiosity for you or a part of your fantasy. Perhaps you want to share your pleasure with someone else or want help to make these discoveries. Whatever your reasons, I wish your discoveries to be as deeply an intimate and transformative experience, as it has been for me
Session structure and prices:
Beautiful Tantric Massage
Includes:
- A Full luxurious Tantric Massage, including Yoni or Lingam Massage and optional anal massage (including prostate for men).
Minimum of 2 hours at £250
Recommended 3 hours £325
Additional hours at £100
If you'd like to learn more you can view my blogs on the subject: Anal pleasure for men... it feels so good! and Anal Pleasure and Anal Sex 101, or book a consultation with me.