Valentine’s Day happens to be my least favourite day of the year — for personal reasons. The best Valentine’s Days of my life were the ones when my mum sent me chocolates and a card. Now that I’m in my
Reclaiming Valentines Day
Consent is so S*xy
The September 4th World S*xual Health Day campaign this year, focusses on consent. Their messaging is important and clear, but I find it a bit one sided, limited and finger wagging like; ‘you should know when no is a no,
National Handjob Day
According to datingscout.com and the abundant ways to celebrate s*x, Friday July 21st is National Handjob Day. And I can’t help but smile as this date also happens to be my birthday 😊 I intend to celebrate by self-pleasuring on the sunny
Tantric Massage: Unlocking Pleasure, Potential, and Power
Introduction: In today’s fast-paced world, stress and tension have become all too common. The need for relaxation, self-discovery, and connection with our bodies and partners has never been more important. In this guest post, we delve into the world of
Consent Superpowers for Sexy and Respectful Play
From working with hundreds of men, I have seen how much pressure they often feel around sex, desire and intimacy. Pressure to be the one directing the show in physical intimacy… Pressure to perform… To be a stallion in bed…
Prostate: Pain, Pleasure and Awareness
March is Prostate Cancer Awareness month and it feels very timely as in just two weeks I have met four men who have had treatment for prostate issues. All of whom have experienced side effects either from the symptoms, the
The Joy of Transforming Troublesome Turn-Ons
Unearthing my darkest fantasies isn’t something I thought I would ever be comfortable talking about publicly. But it’s part of the territory of being a safer practitioner – learning about myself – including the darker stuff. I’m basically doing the
The Sensual Potential of the Soft C*ck
Co-authored with Alison Pilling Not getting an erection or losing an erection during intimacy is for many men pretty much up there with losing your job or getting a divorce: it can be devastating! Through my work, I meet a
How to know if you or someone you know is in a toxic relationship (and what to do about it)
There’s a lot of stigma around men admitting that they are or have been, in an abusive relationship. What gets most often reported in the media is male-on-female abuse, but what’s rarely talked about is relationships where men are abused
The Hero’s Journey
Unsure where to start sorting out your sex life? Stepping into the Hero’s Journey could be a great start for you … Conceptualised by Joseph Campbell mid-last century, The Hero’s Journey was the result of his analysis of global religions