Welcome to The Sexual Empowerment Programme
The most comprehensive and holistic Sexual Empowerment Training for Men and their Partners I have ever developed.This is a sex training for men aged 25 to 95 who know that a better sex life can exist but need some guidance on how to get there. It’s for men who are facing sexual dissatisfaction and relationship challenges and want to get better in bed for themselves, for their partner(s).
Unlocking Your Fullest Sexual Potential: A Journey of Empowerment
Let’s begin by saying that whatever you are going through, you are not broken! And you don’t need to be fixed! Wherever you stand on your sexual journey, you already possess wisdom and knowledge within you. I won’t prescribe how to be a man because you hold that wisdom within. My role is to guide you in accessing your innate healthy masculinity, that divine masculine essence that resides within you. The goal is to unearth your unique sexual expression and delight, cultivating intimacy within yourself before extending it to your partner.
Committing to your transformation and embracing your sexual birthright is a commitment to personal transformation. When you join this programme, you’re not just committing to your self development you’re dedicating yourself to embody everything you desire in intimacy.
A comprehensive programme: 3 stages, 6 modules each, totalling 18 modules. But it doesn’t stop there. You’ll have lifetime access to the whole programme with a treasure trove of over 150 tools, tips, techniques, and practices.
Engaging, Authentic, Easy to use Content
This journey of empowerment unfolds through a carefully crafted blend of video content, audio resources, and written materials. What you will see are real time coaching session with individuals, couples and in workshops. You can witness how these techniques work for real. The programme is designed to equip you with not just techniques but the liberation of thought to shed any constraints that might hold you back in the bedroom—physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Embracing Your True Masculine Power
Rather than dictating who you should be or how you should behave, this program aims to unlock your authentic masculine power. The goal is for you to show up in intimate moments as a calm, centred, present, and confident partner. You know how irresistible that is—for both you and your partner(s).
Flexible Learning, Permanent Transformation
Daily training is essential to reach your goal, but whether you choose to fast-track your journey, completing one module a week, or savouring each practice at your own pace, this course promises to be a catalyst for lasting change in your erotic and relational life.
Stepping into your full sexual potential is a commitment to change. When you commit to this programme you commit to yourself; You commit to embodying everything you ever wanted in intimacy.
Are you ready to embark on this transformative voyage toward sexual empowerment, freedom and joy?
The Comprehensive Course Breakdown: Unveiling Your Path to Sexual Mastery
In this transformative 3-stage journey, comprising 18 meticulously crafted modules, you’ll be granted access to a treasure trove of wisdom sourced from the latest scientific discoveries and profound Tantric and Taoist traditions. Not to mention the cutting-edge insights from the realms of Sexology, neurobiology, coaching, consent, trauma studies and psychotherapy. Drawn from over 8 years of personal growth and coaching thousands of men in one-on-one sessions, I’ve distilled this wealth of knowledge into a potent toolkit.
Transformative Practices, Not Just Techniques
Within these modules, you’ll discover over 150 practices, each designed to facilitate your transformation into the sexual connoisseur you aspire to be. These aren’t just techniques; they’re your keys to your sexual evolution and lasting change.
The Power of Consistent Practice
Remember, true mastery comes from practice—repeated practice. My online platform offers you convenient lifetime, on-demand access, enabling you to cultivate your sexual prowess within the sanctuary of your own home.
Sexuality Beyond Technique
And here’s the secret: sex isn’t merely a sequence of techniques; it’s a psychological dance. It’s shaped by your psyche, your upbringing, and your lifelong sexual habits. That’s why, in this program, you will delve deeper. I don’t just teach sexual practices; I guide you in unravelling limiting beliefs and shedding the shackles of cultural conditioning surrounding your sexuality.
Unlocking Your Psyche
My program is designed to address the underlying psychology of your sexual encounters. It’s about evolving not just what you do during sex, but who you are before, during and after.
Embrace Your Unique Masculinity
I don’t believe in telling you how to be a man. Instead, I invite you into profound and powerful practices that liberate you from anything holding you back from fully expressing your authentic masculinity. It’s this authenticity that becomes a powerful force for good, energising current relationships and magnetising the right partners into your life.
This isn’t just a course; it’s a journey of self-discovery, transformation, and empowerment. It’s about owning your sexuality, embracing your uniqueness, and becoming the sexual master of your own lifetime.
Are you ready to unlock your full potential?
Your Path to Sexual Fulfilment
Your journey begins with a free no obligation Consultation Call, to discover the special world of holistic Sex Coaching: a mixture of psychology and body-based exercises and practices. This is a new and sometimes daunting experience for everyone at first, and the programme involves:
- Developing a trusting, truthful, supportive and professional therapeutic relationship
- Delving into your sexual history, where you are now and where you want to be
- Changing your current masturbation techniques
- Challenging your attitudes to and assumptions about sex – most of which you are probably not aware of, because, let’s face it, few of us are until we embark on this kind of journey!
- Developing an awareness of your resistances to pleasure (yes, that’s a real thing!) and working with these rather than ignoring or suppressing them
- Exploring embodiment, touch and sensation
- Expanding your pleasure capacity by identifying and moving through pleasure blocks and pleasure thresholds.
- Coaching in touch techniques and heart connection through intimacy.
Silver
Navigate your learning journey your way
Free Consultation Call to apply
Access to full online course
Self-directed learning at your pace
Optional pre-commitment 2-hour Opening Session online
Additional coaching hours if needed/desired
Gold
Dive into personalised online coaching
Free Consultation Call to apply
Access to full online course
Self-directed learning at your pace
12 hours of online coaching
Closing Session
Optional pre-commitment 2-hour Opening Session online
Additional coaching hours if needed/desired
Platinum
Immerse yourself in exclusive bespoke in-person sessions
Free Consultation Call to apply
Access to full online course
Self-directed learning at your pace
6 hours of online coaching
12 hours of 1:1 in-person coaching hours
18 hours of expert coaching in total
Includes live practice through Sexual Partner Surrogacy
Closing Session
Optional 2-hour Opening Session in person or online
Additional online coaching hours if needed/desired
Additional in-person coaching hours if needed/desired
Testimonials
The Therapeutic Relationship
One of the benefits of choosing the Gold and Platinum programmes, is the relationship that can develop between you and I. Having a strong therapeutic relationship is an essential part of this whole process. Most hurt is created in relationship, and it is in relationship where compassion, empathy, acceptance and healing can happen. You are not here just to learn better fingering techniques or just how to last longer in bed, though this may be part of your learning. There will be challenges; physical, psychological and emotional. And key to this is navigating the healing relationship between you and I.
“You can’t heal your heart with your mind. You can only heal your heart with your heart”
Jeff Brown
My Courses are Unique
Honestly, if you’re seeking a quick fix with a handful of sex tricks and techniques, then this program is not right for you. If your aim is to acquire quick fix shortcuts for sexual difficulties or for attracting partners, this isn’t the path we’ll be taking. And if you’re looking for a program that defines your masculinity and expects you to conform to someone else’s model, that’s not what I offer either.
Unlike many sexual programs out there, this one is all about the heart. It’s about cultivating genuine respect and fostering a sense of awe and grace in the realms of sexual and relational intimacy.
My journey in understanding sexuality and neurobiology began through Tantra and into Sexological Bodywork and Psychotherapy. I hold a deep respect for rigorous scientific principles and the ancient wisdoms from Tantric and Taoist traditions. I don’t believe in pseudo-science or the love and light gurus who refuse to acknowledge or work through their shadows. Everything I offer is grounded in research, evidence and experience
Your journey is unique to you; it is a journey from where you are now to where you want to be. Are you ready?
What kind of results can you expect?
Sex coaching mirrors the principles of fitness training, yes there are physical improvements, enhancing your sexual prowess, much like how you’d build muscle strength and tone through exercise. Yet, beyond the physical gains, this coaching aims for balance, promoting self care, self acceptance and personal vitality. Just as you invest in your physical fitness for a healthier life, training your sexuality can lead to a more fulfilling and vibrant sex life, encompassing your body, your mind and your soul. It is this sense of personal authenticity that radiates from you, enhancing your relationships and drawing more of the kind of people into your life where mutual support, kindness and empowerment becomes the norm.
Ready for a transformative adventure?
Are you ready to take your first step on your journey to Sexual Empowerment?
The Opening Session: Unlock Your Best Sex Life!
“The beginning is the most important part of the work”
Plato
The Opening Session
The Opening Session is an optional initiation session into the Sexual Empowerment Programme and a portal into the best Sex Coaching for men and their partners available, developed from over eight years of intimacy and pleasure coaching with men.
Embarking on The Sexual Empowerment Voyage
Join me for a dynamic 2-hour kickoff session, be it online via Zoom or in the heart of Pudsey, nestled between Leeds and Bradford in West Yorkshire. In this 1:1 Sex Coaching immersive gathering, we don’t just talk, we move, breathe, and engage in interactive icebreakers. By the session’s end, you will have:
- Unearthed profound insights about yourself.
- Gained a crystal-clear purpose behind your journey’s inception.
- Explored the nuanced dimensions of safety, risk, presence, pleasure, change, and embodiment within your journey’s context.
- Anticipated the potential barriers that might challenge you along the way.
- Acquired a preview of what lies ahead during and after The Sexual Empowerment Programme.
- Strengthened your commitment to personal growth and development.
Opening Session Features and Investment:
Two hours one-on-one online or in-person experience in Pudsey, West Yorkshire. An exclusive opportunity to sample the transformative journey that lies ahead and establish a profound connection with yourself.
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek”
Joseph Campbell
Are you ready to take your first step on your journey to Sexual Empowerment?
Stage 1: The Empowered Self Pleasure Sessions
“You don’t have to see the whole staircase just to take the first step”
Martin Luther King
The Empowered Self Pleasure Sessions
Overcoming obstacles to your sexual expression Prioritising Self Pleasure and rediscovering your body’s unique Sexual Pleasure
There may be setbacks along the way but, every journey begins with a first step, a leap of faith. And in the leap you take, you begin to fight for a worthy cause – you!
Changing the way you touch yourself can change your life.
In choosing to move away from your comfort zone of the same old, same old, you are accepting the challenge of change, where moving from low libido, functional or mind-based arousal of fantasy, porn and performance to a (re)acquaintance with sensation, discovery, delight and sexual expression
The Empowered Self Pleasure Sessions aims to enrich your experience of self-touch and solo loving and is an essential foundation for success in stage 2 and 3 of The Sexual Empowerment Programme.
The Self Empowerment Sessions:
This series of 6 modules is a transformative journey toward sexual empowerment and self-discovery. Topics include developing mindfulness, understanding the vital role of breath, and connecting with your body through interoception. You’ll awaken your senses, nurture curiosity and generosity, and practice being fully present. Modules also cover understanding your nervous system, creating safety, and exploring your energy body. You’ll delve into sensory awareness, the interplay between thoughts and sensations, and managing resistance. Discovering your life force energy is a central theme, as you reconnect with your senses, engage in body scanning, and explore mindfulness. The course addresses negative self-talk, differentiates functional and pleasure-centred arousal, and navigates vulnerability and shame. It culminates in cultivating self-love, mastering solo intimacy, exploring penetration techniques, and embracing your mature masculine power, all with the aim of holistic personal growth.
- Getting really clear about what you want to gain from your masturbation and self-touch
- Becoming more aware of your body as a source of pleasure through embodiment techniques
- Understanding how arousal works in your mind, body and nervous systems.
- Improve your body image and body confidence
- Exploring the difference between mind-based and body-based arousal
- Awaking (or reawakening) your senses
- Practices around the movement, breath and sound
- Exploring Orgasmic Yoga practices
- Placement of attention, presence and quieting the mind.
- Improving your self-touch techniques
- Breaking old habits including thought patterns, language and your self-touch
- Honouring yourself, noticing your needs and making choices that work for you
- Discussions around masculinity and patriarchy, how these impact you and others around you
- Expanding your capacity for sensation and pleasure
- Identifying, honouring (rather than judging) and working with your resistances
- Examining embarrassment and shame and how these influence your sexual expression and in your wider life
What can the Empowered Self Pleasure Sessions Help You With?
- Unsatisfying use of porn and fantasy
- Functional or same old same old masturbation techniques
- Difficulties with low libido and arousal
- Healing body, sexual or relationship trauma
- Sexual inexperience
And The Self Empowerment Sessions are the first stage to addressing concerns around:
- Fear of intimacy
- Body image issues and penis size
- Premature ejaculation
- Delayed ejaculation or retarded ejaculation
- late virginity
- Premature ejaculation and wanting more ejaculation choice
- Erectile dysfunction
- Recovery from a difficult relationship or preparing to be in a new relationship
- Or there may be something else you want to work on?
Are you ready to take your first step on your journey to Sexual Empowerment?
Stage 2: Empowered Connection with Women
“When I touched her body, I believed she was god”
Roman Payne
Empowered Connection with Women
Discovering the joy of presence, communication, touch skills, understanding of and heart connection with women
Many men come to me asking to learn how to please a woman, it’s a bit more to it than learning how to touch here and lick there! And if you have ever struggled to know what to do or feel immense sexual performance pressure or anxiety, I’ve got you covered. These sessions are about acquiring the knowledge, information, communication, technical skills and confidence to support you in your journey to pleasing a woman.
Using all that you have learned about yourself from your Empowered Self Pleasure Sessions, stepping into Empowered Connection with Women, offers you a unique opportunity to learn both the theory and the practical skills you need to be a better lover with women. Many men can find communication with partners generally, and especially during intimacy, challenging. The techniques we will explore during these sessions will help you develop more conscious communication with your partner and so develop a better understanding between each other and enhance your relationship(s).
Empowered Connection with Women includes:
An array of modules designed to facilitate empowered connections and a deeper understanding of women’s desires. It starts with the enigmatic question of What Do Women Want? Before delving into practical aspects of intimacy like creative scheduling, creating safe and sacred spaces, mastering the art of communication, exploring feelings, emotions, stuckness, flow, and relationship dynamics.
Navigating mismatched desires, exploring the core motivations behind sex and delving into self-regulation, embodiment practices, and consent through modules like embodying a yes and no and erotic massage. Engaging games like the I Want Game and the 3 Minute Game promote open dialogue and connection.
The program addresses challenges such as managing rejection, clarifying consent and warming into deeper emotional connections. Self-reflection and exploration of individual desires are encouraged, along with practices like Eye Gazing and Undressing Rituals.
Tools such as Blocks to Pleasure tackle obstacles to sexual fulfilment, while others explore the art of asking for desires, overcoming second-guessing, and escaping the trap of people-pleasing. Practices include profound experiences such as Yoni Massage and Lingam Massage, with a focus on choiceful ejaculation.
Empowered Connection with Women can support you with:
- Understanding the female body and arousal
- Performance anxiety
- Managing your own arousal
- Platonic touch versus erotic touch
- Erotic touch techniques
- Communication, consent, boundaries and agreements
- Body image issues and penis size
- Understanding and satisfying your partner
- Learning how to pleasure a woman
- Touch techniques
- Understanding the #metoo Movement and your role as an ally
The Empowered Connection with Women is Stage 2 of addressing concerns around:
- Fear of intimacy
- Ejaculatory choice and freedom
- Erectile satisfaction
- Enhanced sexual techniques
- Sexual confidence in intimacy
- Late virginity
- Recovery from a difficult relationship or preparing to be in a new relationship
“Sex is the beginning of the journey to love”
Osho
Are you Ready?
Are you ready to take your first step on your journey to Sexual Empowerment?
Stage 3: The Empowered Intimacy Sessions
“Communication is merely exchange of information, but connection is an exchange of our humanity”
Sean Stephenson
The Empowered Intimacy Sessions
Bringing everything you have learned together to experience choiceful, authentic, erotic connection and sexual mastery
Bring together the confidence and advanced skills you have gained so far; everything you have learnt about what feels good for your own body, and what feels good in connection with a woman. You’re already improving sexual performance, now ready to practice these skills in relaxed, supportive intimacy sessions; learning to master the tools and techniques to create your desired erotic outcomes.
This series of tools provides a comprehensive journey into deeper intimacy, communication, and sexual exploration with the woman you are working with whether that’s your partner, your friend, your sexual Partner surrogate or with me as part of the Platinum programme. It begins with building the bridge to intimacy and understanding closeness and distance in relationships, exploring attachment styles and core practices.
You’ll engage in awareness and connection building activities that foster deeper and more satisfying intimacy. From mind blowing oral sex for both you and her, deeper, more informed and choiceful penetration and exploring anal pleasure.
Navigating the complexities of relationships, unpredictable erections, and stress-free penetration positions are also covered. Mindfulness techniques for staying present during arousal, ensuring consent and timing, and the intricacies of heart-full penetration and afterglow are explored.
The Empowered Intimacy Sessions include
- Enhanced communication in intimacy
- Tantric ritual, Yab Yum and Tantric intimacy
- Exploring oral pleasure
- Practicing penetration including stillness, thrusting techniques and presence
- Discovering anal pleasure
- Practicing hot and cold arousal
- Perfecting soft cock penetration
- Experiencing choiceful ejaculation
- Cultivating and sharing orgasmic energy
- The essentials of relating: flirting, dating, rejection, consent and boundaries
- Timing, choosing your setting
The Empowered Intimacy Sessions can help you to have an ongoing ‘real time’ experience of:
- Enhanced erotic touch techniques
- Switching from performance to connection
- Choosing your arousal levels moment by moment
- Communication, consent, boundaries and agreements
- Ejaculation choice and freedom
- Erectile satisfaction
- Confidence in intimacy
- Experience intimacy for the first time
- Experience deeper and more loving connections
- Increase sensation, joy and pleasure.
- Be more body confident
- Have more satisfying sex with your partner
- Feel closer to being in a new relationship
Are you ready to take your first step on your journey to Sexual Empowerment?
The Closing Session: Celebrate Your Transformation!
“All stories come to an end to pave way for new ones, but sometimes new stories start from old ending”
Hermann J Steinherr
The Closing Session: Bringing to an end your journey through The Sexual Empowerment Programme
You’ve been on a journey from making that first tentative Consultation Call, through setting your intention for your journey and worked all the way through to completing your final sessions. Now you are invited to join a final 1-hour Closing Session.
This Closing Session offers an opportunity for you to spend some time with me, reviewing how the journey has been for you, where you were, where you are at now and where you are going to next.
Looking back: We will revisit your intention statement, which you made in the early stages of your journey. We can reflect on some key moments, learnings or turning points for you during your discoveries and travels through the programme.
In the present: We will take stock of where you are at the close of your programme and celebrating you in the here and now.
Looking to the future: To identify what ongoing steps you are or would like to take to help you to integrate these changes into your life. We can look at what, if any, techniques, resources or support you may need going forward.
So, in celebrating your journey, we can share appreciations and bring our therapeutic relationship to an honouring close.
Are you ready to take your first step on your journey to Sexual Empowerment?
Questions? I’m sure you have many…
The small yet essential small print
- The field of human sexuality is complex and nuanced. Each of us have had varied and often difficult sexual experiences. As each man’s experience is unique, it means that you may require either additional sessions beyond the number offered, or may need additional support outside of this structure. This is almost certainly the case where significant trauma and/or shame and attachment issues are uncovered during the course of the programme.
- People who are in active addictions are advised to access specialist addiction support before accessing The Sexual Empowerment Programme. People who have been in addiction recovery for two years or more are very welcome.
- Completing daily home play activities is an essential and required part of your commitment to The Sexual Empowerment Programme